If you deserve to be felt sorry for, let somebody else do it. Let those who love and care about you do it. Or better yet, let God take care of that.
God is a very good judge of circumstance. He will certainly know when you need to be emotionally stroked, and perhaps lent a divine hand. If you really deserve it, allow your compassionate God to feel sorry for you. And that will come off looking, and actually being, a lot better than you feeling sorry for yourself.
On the other hand, if you don’t really deserve to be felt sorry for, then why in the world are you doing it. “Poor little me,” isn't flattering to anyone - ever. But it is especially unflattering when it becomes a chronic coping attitude. So, if that's what's going on - quit it. You're better than that.
Here is a better way to deal with life's pain, burdens, and rough patches. #1, stop running around in your own head and listening to your own voice. Start listening for God’s.
And this is what His voice is going to say. I know, because this is what He always says when we are struggling under the weight of life’s painful loads. He will say, “Come aside to Me.”
When you hear that divine invitation, #2, Do it! And, don't listen to the Devil's reasons why you can't. Stubbornly determine to have a true personal engagement with God of some significant duration (make it "a really big deal emphasis time" in your life).
Set some tedium aside. Leave some things off. And just go alone with Him in a very intentional way. And, # 3, in this time of separation, devote yourself to understanding God's purposes in your present circumstance.
So, this is the stuff you do to find God's comfort, help and relief. And when you do experience God's deliverence and direction, #4, Follow through. Allow Him to work His plan in your life, His way. And don't start thinking you must work His plan, your way.
If you will do these things, you can go from “poor little me” to "How Great Thou Art" as your "life song." And obviously, that will be a much more appealing tune for all concerned.
And how did I come by all of this wonderful advice? Hummm… Now, let’s see… Oh yeah, the hard way, of course.